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Sometimes it can be difficult to come up with new ideas for your sex life on your own. Giving an erotic massage, for example. How do you go about it? And where do you actually begin? In this blog, I provide an explicit step-by-step guide and a number of practical tips for a pleasant erotic massage, with the male partner at the center. In a later blog, I will share tips for an erotic massage for her!
Tip: Also read my other blog for ‘an erotic massage for her’
1. Planning and preparation
Although we love spontaneous ideas too, when giving an erotic massage, it can sometimes be useful to plan a date with each other and prepare a little. After all, you can easily set aside at least 2 hours for an extended erotic massage. Make sure you have a date in the calendar and that your children are in bed or staying overnight. Make sure you have a nice massage oil and a lubricant at home. Take a look at the erotic massage oils from LovePlay that have an aphrodisiac scent. You can also order a massage candle, so you can massage with deliciously scented warm oil. A water-based or silicone-based lubricant is also handy to have on hand in this case. Finally, a large towel to lie on. So far, so good.
2. Setting the scene!
The date for your date has arrived. Just double-check… is everything at home? Turn on the heating in the bedroom nicely an hour before the moment arrives. Lying naked in a cold bedroom doesn't get anyone in the mood. Brrr.. ;). Have you bought a massage candle? Be sure to light it an hour in advance so that enough oil has melted. Make sure the room is tidy and make it cozy with some candles. (use electric tea lights for safety). Make it completely romantic by scattering rose petals on the stairs and placing a tea light on each step. Ask your partner if he likes soft music playing. For some, this helps them relax, while others find it distracting. Spotify has very suitable playlists for this, for example ‘Relaxing Massage’.
Tip: Ask your partner to take a nice shower (and do this yourself too). We also have a wonderful line of body care products for this.
Tip: Put on a sexy lingerie set yourself.
3. Let’s do this
Have your partner lie on his stomach on the bed (don't forget the towel). Start with a ‘regular’ body massage first. Take your time to feel your partner's body and gently massage his muscles loose, so that he completely relaxes. Massage his back, arms, and legs. Take as much time as you need here. This way he will be completely relaxed and can more easily surrender himself to you later.
4. Teasing
After you have given him a relaxing body massage, it is time to start the seduction by teasing him a little. Try to discover what your partner's erogenous zones are, but do not touch the penis and scrotum yet. Give him soft kisses, caress with your fingertips, let your breasts rest gently on his back and let him feel your breath at his ear, whisper sweet things. Move your fingers up and down between his toes and gently lick, suck, or bite his toes or fingertips. Go gently (!) with your nails over his back, down his buttocks. Use your own imagination above all and do this for as long as you want…
5. Building up
It is time to build up the tension further. Slowly massage or caress up the inside of his legs and lightly touch his scrotum with your fingertips. Massage his buttocks and especially the little hollow just above his buttocks. A lot of sexual energy is built up in this spot that is released by massaging it. Gently caress between his buttocks with your fingertips.
Of course, you don't have to massage him with only your hands. Use the rest of your own body too, for example by letting your breasts rest on him or slowly sliding your upper body and breasts over his back and buttocks.
Ask your partner to turn around and lie on his back. He can relax his hands beside him or put them behind his head. Just whatever he finds most relaxing.
If your intention is to finish the erotic massage with your hands, you can use a body-friendly massage oil for the penis. If you want to move on to coitus (penetration) after the massage, I advise you to use a lubricant for this part.
Take some extra massage oil or lubricant and start massaging all the parts around the penis. His lower abdomen, his groin, the inside of his upper legs. Keep teasing him by occasionally going along his penis and scrotum with your fingertips. Or place your warm hand on his scrotum and caress it with your other hand.
6. Towards a climax
Due to the slow and extended build-up, a lot of sexual tension has built up in your partner's body. At this moment, he will greatly desire a climax. From now on, you will focus entirely on your partner's penis and scrotum.
Sit between his legs (on your knees or cross-legged), so that you can easily reach his penis with both hands. Ask him to put his legs in a V with his feet against each other, wrapped around you.
Drip more massage oil or lubricant over his penis again. You can do this by placing your hand on his penis and letting the massage oil drip through your fingers. Now massage the penis with different techniques. Start at a slow pace and increase the pace as soon as you feel your partner is ready for it. You can let your hands slide over the penis in different ways. Like a corkscrew (turning up and down), twisting (of course do this gently), or as if making fire with your hands. Another technique he will find very pleasant is if you make a little bowl with your hand and go over the top of the penis this way.
Tip: While you are pampering the penis with one hand, you can lightly massage the scrotum and the perineum (the spot between the anus and the scrotum) with the other hand.
Work towards his climax this way. As soon as you notice that he is almost ready to come, stop and let the feeling recede again, then build up again towards an orgasm. Do this a few times. This delaying of the orgasm is also called ‘edging’ and ensures that the final orgasm is even more intense and powerful. It also helps to recognize the signals of an orgasm so that you can train and extend your sexual endurance this way. When you are both ready, let the orgasm happen and do not forget to enjoy each other in each other's arms afterwards.
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